There comes a time when life throws you something so unexpected, so deeply unsettling, that the only thing left to do is surrender. Not the kind of surrender that means giving up but the kind that asks, “Can you trust the unknown even when everything feels like it’s falling apart?” This post is for the moments when life feels hard, and you’re not sure how to move forward. I’ve been there. And I want to share how surrendering truly letting go transformed everything.

I wasn’t sure if I should write about this, as the story is still unfolding for me but like all of my articles, I write them because I’ve been called to, and this one is no different. It’s just that the ending is still unknown and so as always I’m letting go and trusting the process. 

So I’ll take you back. It’s September 2023 and I’m sitting in the family courts as a defendant, negotiating the terms of access with the judge and my child’s father in order for him to spend time with our son. It goes well. I get what I asked for, which is for access between my child’s father and my son to be staggered, as he has yet to prove himself.

At first, the communication between myself and my child’s father was kept to emails only. And then in 2024, our conversations become less tense and more child-focused and friendly. I even met his girlfriend, as they (at the time) were running a business together. He requests to have my mobile number and, after thinking about it, I oblige as it’s a lot easier.

He even pays for a course I attended and really makes an effort financially to help support the children, where he hadn’t done so in the previous 12 years.

At the end of 2024, he buys a BMW and calls me to say it’s our car, and for me to stop using Zip Car. All I have to do is pay for the petrol I use and contribute a little towards the insurance, which is the same as what I was paying for Zip Car.

Fast forward to 2025, and his mask starts to slip. The truth is finally revealed. My son can no longer hold the lies he’s been keeping to protect his dad, and he finally tells me what’s really going on. Just like that, all the financial support  including the car stops. My head begins to worry, but my soul whispers: surrender.

And that’s exactly what I did.

I wish I could tell you that when I surrendered, an immediate solution was presented but it wasn’t. I had to (and still am) taking one day at a time. Instead of being physical about it, I had to be spiritual in order to be led in the physical.

For example, a couple of weeks after everything happened, I wanted to speak to my spirit guides. I went into meditation. Every time I meditate, I usually align my chakras before I go through a portal to connect with my spiritual team but that day, I just couldn’t align my chakras. So I thought, Okay, I’m clearly tired. I’ll just focus on my breath.

So I’m breathing, focused, and present and all of a sudden, my chakras align without me having to do anything. The door to the portal blows open and a man (a spirit guide) comes through. He sits in front of me and starts talking to me.

I’ve never met this guide before, but he tells me he’s the same being who appeared during my son’s meditation. He was my children’s father’s guide but not anymore. Suddenly, the children’s dad’s ancestors came flooding through the portal. They say they are now mine and my children’s guides. They’re here to protect us and assure me that we will never go without. They say they’re done with the children’s father because he never listens, he always self-sabotages, and that my children are the cycle-breakers for his family.

They give me a set of instructions and I follow them immediately to continue the divine protection of myself and my children. Since then, everything has been going in my favour when dealing with this matter.

I have no idea why I’m sharing this story but as always, I want to make it practical, so you can take something away and apply it to your own life.

What is surrender?

It doesn’t mean to just roll over and do nothing. The act of surrender is about letting go of what you can’t control and honing in on what you can control  because that’s where your power lies and allowing whatever needs to unfold to unfold.

For instance, instead of going back and forth with my children’s father, I contacted the relevant authorities under my spiritual team’s instruction. I said and did exactly what his ancestors told me to do and then sat back and continued to live. I didn’t try to block what was happening from happening, I stepped aside. I could see that this had to happen in order for something great to enter my life. 

How to surrender when life is hard?

I can’t give you a one-size-fits-all answer.

For me, it’s tending to my spiritual practices such as being at my altar more, speaking to my guides for reassurance and love, and remaining present and not listening to the ego.

Read; My Awakening: How Isolation Led Me Back To Myself

It’s channeling spirit in my journal and taking heed of the instructions given by my now bigger-than-ever team of spirit guides and ancestors. 

As a result, our lives have continued as normal even without the financial support we once had. My son is now feeling at peace and liking himself again. And I feel freer than ever, because I still have my peace in uncertainty. 

As I said, this story is still unfolding but the universe wanted me to share it to remind you that:

You don’t need to have all the answers to be at peace with yourself and your life.
Taking it one day at a time is enough. 

If you’ve been called to read this, then Spirit wants you to know:
You’re phenomenal.
You will be taken care of.
Everything will work out in your favour.

If life is asking you to surrender, maybe it’s not falling apart, maybe it’s falling into place. Spiritual growth comes through challenges. 

I’d love to hear how you’re navigating the unknown.

Sage x

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